Thursday, July 15, 2010
Thoughtful Thursday - When You Say You Love Someone
How much do you really love that person? You say that you would go to the ends of the earth for them...and that's all well and dandy, but what happens when someone else catches your eye? You know your heart belongs to the person that you're with, but for some reason, this other person has caught your interest so tough, that you're in a dilemma. Donell Jones described how he would handle this situation:
I had a full blown discussion with a couple of people that I follow on Twitter about this topic. They said that this type of stuff can happen to anyone, no matter what the situation or how long they've been in a relationship. I tend to agree with them. You can't help who you fall in love with, and if you put yourself in their vicinity for long enough, you'll find yourself mixed up in an emotional battle that you weren't prepared for.
This sucks for a number of reasons: #1 being that the person that you're involved with has NO clue what's going on. They think that all is well in their life, when all along, they have no clue that the world that they know and love is about to come crashing down around them. #2 is because all the while, more than likely, you're about to lose something good because you allowed yourself to get caught up in the game. It's bad all the way around, but you got yourself into this situation....so it's up to you to get yourself out of it. There's plenty more reasons I could list, but we'd be here all day!
Now here's the kicker: I actually agree with the sentiment that he poses in this song. I'd rather you leave me alone, than to play me for the fool by juggling (or attempting to at least) a bunch of folks around while keeping me in the dark. So if you've got to roll out because of this, then I'll chuck you the deuces quick, fast, and in a hurry. It may hurt like hell, and we may not talk for quite some time, but in the end, I think I'd respect you more for ending what we have, than running around trying to hide it. I know this sounds strange, but it's the honest to God truth. I don't know if I can think of a single person who would say otherwise (at least truthfully). Think about it long and hard.
How do you feel about this topic? Readers...drop your thoughts!
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
I feel you on this one Nash7ville! I much rather you walk away then try to hold on and do both . . good post . . this song brings me back to Junior year in Hankal Hall! LOL
ReplyDeleteHmmm...you're right. I'd rather be loved at 100% than lead on at 50%. This is why communication in relationships is so important. I tend to side eye people who say silly things like "I only have eyes for you" or "Baby you're the only woman/man I see." Relationships don't mean your eyes and feelings (like lust - which I think is what leads people to "love" someone other than they are committed to but I digress) don't work... they are about choosing to acknowledge and pursue them or not. You know, look but don't touch?
ReplyDeleteGood post and duly noted. ;-)
It is rough dealing with a situation like this. Your eyes may wander. But if your head and your heart stay where they're supposed to be, then it will work out.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you, I'd much rather you be honest with me and go on about your way. Perhaps the grass will be greener, perhaps it will not. That's a chance you take. I probably won't hate you, but I probably won't like you either.
ReplyDeleteI love Eric's comment. I agree, we all have wandering eyes...we're human. But once the heart and mind begin to leave...that's trouble.